Based on my unscientific research of the last several years, this is the #1 excuse to miss a ride (or anything else). I like soccer. I can clearly see the benefits of involving children in team sports (exercise, teamwork, etc.), but I struggle to justify the ROI considering all that it costs the entire family. The intensity of athletic programs--even for 6,7,8 year olds--means the entire family sacrifices most weekends. A parent recently told me that their kids' coach scheduled practices during Spring Break--it was made clear that the kids were expected to attend those practices if they expected to play. Another week of sports practice or a family vacation to Bryce Canyon? Hmmm...Hank Moody wrote:...but I need to attend my [kid's] soccer game...
Sometimes you have to give up a good thing for something better.
It can be a difficult decision. Are there "non competitive" programs for kids where all the practices and games are on weeknights--leaving the weekends free for other family activities?
Here is a photo I snapped of a family from Saturday. Father, son, & daughter:
Two other families that I invited could not come because of kids athletic games. 10 years from now, what will those kids remember more? The soccer games or trail riding with dad? You can replace "trail riding" in that last sentence with camping, hiking, weekend fishing at the lake, building houses with Habitat for Humanity, building a lawn-mowing business, etc. I'm not suggesting every weekend should be about trail riding motorcycles, but I'm not sure that every weekend being about kids soccer games is the best investment of time either.
If the kid becomes a professional soccer player and buys you a new home with cash, well...those weekends you invested paid off! How many of the 50,000 kids playing soccer in Johnson County will continue to play soccer past middle school?
I've been a father for 7 years now, and it's been a struggle to balance how much my wife and I adjust our life to be about our daughter vs about our family. It does seem clear that in the "old days" (think turn of the century agriculture economy) kids were expected to figure out how to fit into the family life--to become productive members of the team. Today, it seems, we focus 99% of our time and effort around ensuring children are the focus. No wonder they feel so entitled.
See y'all on the soccer fields this weekend!